Unconditional Love Really Means Unconditional Radiance

The fastest way to raise your frequency is to do the job you were designed to do. You were designed to love. You were designed to radiate Love unconditionally. Now before you go, "Oh THAT again. I've tried loving unconditionally, and it is impossible," you need to understand that what I'm saying is different. What I'm saying is that you are to love, plain and simple. Not love somebody. Not love something. Just to love. Okay, in a sense, you are to love somebody or something, but not in the ordinary sense. You are simply to love God.

You were designed to be a receiver and transmitter of Life Force, also known as Love. The ability to do that is hard-wired into your body-mind. But we have largely forgotten how that is designed to work, and confuse the act of loving with our personal relationships with other human beings. Loving is rightly an impersonal act. Now, I'm not saying that there can't be a personal aspect to loving--of course there can and is. However, one of the things that stops us from doing what we are designed to do is that we tend to tie the act of loving--or not loving--into a recipient, or lack thereof.

There actually always is a recipient of your Love--it's just probably a little different than you may have considered before. You were designed to participate in a mighty cycle of Love, issuing from God, returning to God. If you've read Recreating Eden, you know that there is a masculine aspect of God, and a feminine aspect. When you radiate Love, you are participating in the larger action of "Father God" (masculine, radiating aspect) loving "Mother God" (feminine, receiving aspect). Both at the macro level of God--God the Source--and the personal level--God In You, there is a radiation of Love and a receiving of Love between the masculine and feminine aspects. This is how it is designed to work: Source radiates, the feminine within you receives, the masculine within you radiates, Source receives and the cycle continues. The more dynamically the feminine and masculine within you participate in the larger cycle of God loving God, the higher your frequency and the more paradisiacal your life is.

In the process, the experience of Love in all Creation is increased. This is where the personal aspect of loving comes in. When you understand that God is in everyone and everything, you know that as you radiate Love unconditionally, and hold an entity in your consciousness, their experience of the Love increases. The only Love that we experience is of God, not of another person. When we feel Love from someone else--or think we do--it's merely that the radiance from God In Them is catalyzing a greater experience of attunement with God In Us. It is attuning us with the mighty flow of Love that God radiates constantly. There is no Love but the Love of God, loving God.

Practically speaking, what we are called to do is to radiate Love the way that Source does. We are to radiate it whether or not we feel it is being received (it always is--just not necessarily consciously received by the object of your focus). We are called to radiate Love whether or not we believe someone "deserves" it: God always "deserves" it! Remember, you are not actually loving a person or a thing--you are loving God. You may feel fondness for the particular configuration of form that God has created in another person, but as for Love, you never get Love from outside yourself--when you experience Love, you are only experiencing the movement of Life Force through you. You are participating in the cycle of Love from God, to God.

We are called to radiate Love even when we feel we don't we have it in us. But here's a cool thing to know: while you can't radiate Love unless you first receive it, the intention to radiate it will initiate the flow of Love to you from Source. As you may remember from Recreating Eden, the Adam in you--the inner masculine--may be holding the inner feminine--Eve--out of alignment. The easiest way to turn this around is for Adam to decide to consciously radiate Love. The act of doing so aligns both aspects of you the way that they were designed to be. When you engage your masculine, radiant aspect in the job it was designed for, that automatically puts Eve in the receptive position, and Adam in the radiating position. And the rest is as natural as breathing. Because it's what you were designed to do, you were born knowing how to Love. Neat system, don't you think?!

Yes, we are to radiate Love no matter what. Bad mood? Don't feel like loving? The fastest way to raise your frequency upward out of less-than-joy--and to experience more Love, yourself--is to do what you are designed to do! We are to be as consistent and persistent at radiating Love as is God. What if God got in a snit and withheld Life Force/Love because we weren't consciously open to receive it? The Whole of Creation would collapse! What if God withheld Life Force/Love because we weren't aware or appreciating it? What if God withheld Life Force/Love because we were being jerks? Thankfully, God radiates Love impersonally, unfailingly, unconditionally. Love radiates from God whether we appreciate it or are unaware of it. Love radiates from Source regardless of what we do--or don't do. When we intend to Love in the same constant and impersonal way as does God, the Source, and do so more and more, our journey home to the higher frequencies where ease and joy are the norms, is expedited exponentially. Indeed, unconditional radiance is the key to everything.

So, the next time someone cuts you off in traffic and you're tempted to go into reverse polarity, withhold Love, and perhaps even actively focus the opposite of Love in the offender's direction, understand that you are truly removing yourself from the flow of Life Force and Love, reducing your own frequency (and thus, the frequency of the Whole), and you are removing yourself from the cycle of God loving God that you were designed to facilitate. In such a situation, you are doing the exact opposite of what is needed--whenever there is disharmony, what is needed is not judgment and reaction, what is needed is more Love. I understand that it is human nature (or rather, the ego's and reptilian brain's nature) to react defensively and unlovingly, but our very job as human beings, and certainly, as re-creators of Eden, is to listen to and obey God In Us, ignore the serpent, and continue radiating Love, no matter what! If you should happen to be pulled out of alignment by your ego, just take a deep breath, let your ego know you're on to it, tell it to be silent, center yourself in the Truth, align with your Spirit, and radiate Love as you were intended to do. You'll be surprised how wonderful it feels--after all, it's what you were designed for!

©2005 Julia Rogers Hamrick

Julia Rogers Hamrick is a visionary who spontaneously revisited the reality state called ?Eden? in 1982 when her response to a catastrophic illness catapulted her to a radically higher frequency. She has been a spiritual-growth facilitator for over two decades, and is the author of Recreating Eden: The Exquisitely Simple, Divinely Ordained Plan for Transforming Your Life and Your Planet. To learn more about her Eden experience, read the introduction to Recreating Eden by going to http://www.recreating-eden.com/RecreatingEdenIntroduction.html For more information on Julia and on recreating Eden, visit http://www.recreating-eden.com To read about Julia's own dance with Spirit and ego, read Julia's blog, accessible from her website.

What Does Unconditional Love Really Mean?

Unconditional love means unconditional freedom. Love and freedom are two of those words that are interchangeable. Freedom of choice is unconditional love-

unconditional freedom. Choice is another of those words that are interchangeable with Love and freedom.

For the most part, humanity understands little of what the word unconditional means. Unconditional means... "NO CONDITIONS." This lack of understanding is what has divided man from man, and religion from religion throughout his sojourn in the physical reality. It is again man's ego trying to grasp the idea, and not being able to surrender to its meaning. It appears to be the nature of humanity to always add conditions to unconditional-let me demonstrate.

The one common thread that I have found weaving through man's many belief systems is that God is Unconditional Love. I have yet to have anyone tell me that this is not so, and it seems to be accepted by all belief systems that are centered on a creator. If you are in disagreement with this statement then there would probably be no sense in you reading any further.

Now it must be made clear in this example that unconditional means that there are no conditions to God's Love. Do you understand and agree, that unconditional means no conditions apply?" Be sure because it gets more difficult to differentiate as we move along.

Do you understand that if there was a condition to God's love, then God would be giving conditional love? Conditional love is not the same as unconditional love as described in the preceding paragraph. I have never heard or read anywhere that God gives conditional love, have you?

Love and freedom are the same; if there is a condition to freedom, then it is not unconditional. Freedom is given from unconditional love. Freedom of choice is the same thing as unconditional love-they are all the same thing. I know this is repetitive, but if you can follow this understanding, and accept it, then there is something further you need to understand.

The following concept is extremely difficult for most people to understand. Because love, freedom, and choice are unconditional, there can be no PUNISHMENT associated with them; once again-no punishments. Here is where the so called enlightened fall by the wayside. They cannot accept any of these things without the recourse to punishment. You can practice unconditional love, unconditional freedom, and unconditional choice with no punishments! God will never punish you! Retribution is a lie, it was all made up. Only Man will punish you. Anyone who tells you different, is not coming from unconditional love. They live in fear of you accepting these things. They do not understand what unconditional means.

Most all who have read the first half of this article will not have problems with it until they get to the "No Punishment" part. At this point man's ego takes over, and will try to reason his way out of agreeing with the concept of unconditional. He will begin to say, yes I understand what unconditional means-but! Then he will start; you cannot have people running around doing whatever they want. There is a price (condition) for freedom. You can not freely love anyone you want, that is immoral (conditional). Our choices are limited by are colour, sexual orientation, creed, age, sex, and geographic region (conditional).

If you buy into these conditions, then you are in direct contradiction with what you may have agreed with when you started reading this article. If you didn't agree to the first part, then you have read farther then you were supposed to. You were warned! For those who do not agree that God is unconditional love, and don't understand the contradiction; let me explain. There seems to be a paradox here. Can unconditional love and conditional love exist at the same time? The answer is yes, because we have forgotten our heritage, we have moved away from unconditional. God gives unconditional love; man lives in conditional love!

This is where the contradiction comes from. We understand the love of God, and we feel inferior to it. We can not except that unconditional love is who we really are, and therefore apply conditions to our love and freedom. We project our human emotions and feelings onto God, effectively insulating ourselves from the reality of unconditional love. We attach certain conditions to his love. If we do not follow his will, we will be punished by him as we would punish those that would not do our will. Man's love, freedom, and choice are conditional because we have always had freedom of choice, to choose and accept those conditions which are conditional. It is paradoxal and appropriate that humanity should set conditions for itself, in direct contradiction to what God represents, and expected from his creations-that life is free to live as it desires without limitation. It is the natural course of all living things to evolve to the next best version of itself, so the natural tendency is to survive, not destroy.

Who is it that is teaching us about conditional love? Who or what is actually separating us from the unconditional love of God? The clue has been in the Newspaper's recently and has been manifesting itself for weeks. I'm in Canada, and it is August 08, 2003-the date I have written this article. For weeks now there has been a major controversy about legalized gay marriages. Who do you think is at the forefront of all the objections? Who is it that is using fear tactics to persuade politicians and supporters to change their policies? Who has come out, and said that they fear for the souls of those supporters?

They are the same profits that have for centuries, taught us of Gods conditional, unconditional love. They have taught us that God's love is unconditional, and that it must be accepted as blind faith-and yet they have set down punishments for practicing unconditional-so in effect they have made unconditional, conditional. I don't blame you if you are confused here; who wouldn't be. They have used fear, punishment, and death to implant this lie into our belief systems. They have been as the false profit. The institute does not correctly reflect God's love, nor do the profits and teachers-they don't even come close to teaching it. Their interpretations reflect only their fear that they share with the rest of humanity.

As you reason these contradictions, listen to yourself. Are you coming from unconditional love, or are you reacting from fear? Whatever you now believe, you will have chosen it from unconditional love, because that is your true nature. It should be your reality. You have unconditional freedom to live conditionally, in conditional love without freedom of choice, if that is what you desire. There is no greater display of divine love.

At this moment try to imagine choosing to live unconditionally, try to choose between the two, conditional or unconditional. And if you chose the later, how would you condition yourself to accepting it.

Feel the unconditional love as you make a free choice. As you make the choice, you should notice that you are not being punished for it. That may come later, not from God, but from those who would denounce your choice, and who are living in the realm of conditionality. If nothing else, understand the contradiction. But also understand that who you really are is free. Do not fear for your soul, your soul can take care of itself, and of course that is exactly what it is doing. It is the BLIND FAITH (which is not surrender) that leads you into darkness, when you do not question it. Faith is never blind; it is an essential step in the process of knowing.

Not taking responsibility for your own salvation has given power to those who would use your vulnerability to keep you on the straight and narrow-not yours, but theirs.

The human ability to see black and call it white, is a real blessing in a world of contradictions that require us to make a choice, and believe nothing else. There is no one that is more blind than he who will not see. This has led us into the notion of right and wrong; you are wrong, I am right. We both cannot be right-right?

As you learn to accept the choices of others not being as your own, you will free yourself from the necessity of making judgments about them, and you will be practicing unconditional love. Your new found love for yourself and humanity will set you free. It will be another major step into expanding your enlightenment. To truly free humanity, mankind must see all aspects of itself as being free; as being created from absolute unconditional love. In the greater picture, all things are perfect as they are. It is not necessary to like someone as they are, but it is necessary to love them unconditionally as they are.

The bottom line is that you cannot live your life unconditionally because you live in a physical world that is conditional. However, it doesn't stop you from experiencing unconditional love. Absolute unconditional love is the very nature of the creator-which you are-and it is only when you are focused on yourself as Creator that you will experience unconditional love.

(revised 03/2010)

Roy E. Klienwachter is an ordained minister,light worker, writer and author of Spiritual New Age Wisdom books written in simple language with the eloguence of Zen wisdom.
http://www.klienwachter.com

Is it Okay for Me to Love and Really Enjoy Ellen Degeneres?

The other day I listened to a hilarious monologue by one of the afternoon talk show hosts. It was one of those really funny 5-minutes of squeaky clean humor that is hard to find these days. I caught myself smiling from ear to ear.

It brought back memories of how much I loved this person. Her humor is funny, gentle, and kind...humor you can listen to with your mom. She is Ellen Degeneres.

Shocking but true!

Love is probably a pretty strong word for me to use about Ellen. Yet, you use the same word for a movie, a food, a sport's team, or a reality TV show so I will use it here! And think about this, many of us Christians use the 'love' word for our current president who would not get off the couch to answer our phone call.

I love Ellen in that weird popular culture sort of way. The same way someone says they love Mel Gibson, the movie The Incredibles, the Rockets, the Houston Astros, the Rolling Stones, or their favorite writer and popular culture icon.

Ellen is funny. She has a great smile. She is a funky personality who I've always admired for the cleanness of her comedy. I love the way she loves her mom...isn't that cool? I wish I could love my mom so much that I was comfortable poking some fun at her!

I love the way she dances and the way she sometimes pokes light fun at people but mostly keeps the humor aimed at herself and the odd things in life.

But...

Ellen is a lesbian!

Oops! I can't remember? Can I love someone like that?

How shallow is my love supposed to be? How attached to someone's beliefs or performance is my love? Am I allowed to love someone without accepting their lifestyle as Godly? Does God look down with a frown when I love someone who does not follow His ways?

I think Jesus answers these questions well through His actions and words.

Jesus held a deep and meaningful conversation with the woman at the well during a period of history where He had no business being in the presence of this kind of woman. Jesus skirted the issues of sin, politics, and culture and got down to the real business He was about...had she tasted the water that gives eternal life?

It is quoted that Jesus said it does not matter if you love those that love you because even the very worst of us can do that; what matters is if you love those who hate you. Jesus said a lot of stuff about love that most of us do not care to follow yet at the same time we easily say that we love the people of the world.

The stuff Jesus said about love was not that weak, sappy sort of love that dreamy eyed girls talk about. It was a strong, amazing love that brought Him to death on the cross and caused strong men to become broken and equally strong women to follow Him.

Jesus hung out with what just might be considered the biggest bunch of losers in the first century. He taught them in small groups and in the setting of multitudes; they saw Jesus perform miracles with food, wine, mud, arms, legs, eyes, and demonic spirits yet they still bickered and positioned themselves for greatness. And every last one of them scattered when the tough part came at the cross.

Yet, Jesus still loved each one of them. His love did not waver because of their attitudes when He was with them nor did it change when they betrayed Him. His love was strong.

I want nothing to do with syrupy love that is sweet to the taste but makes me fat.

I want the kind of love that leads me to obedience even unto death. The kind of love that looks beyond faults so that each person I meet can be lead into the Father's embrace. This strong love overlooks lifestyle, personal hygiene, political beliefs, body piercing, crazy colored hair, sexual choices, and wicked hearts.

I want the strong love that burly fishermen, evil tax collectors, and stubborn men are attracted to and transformed by. I want the God kind of love that says I will give anything to see you in eternity. I want the Jesus kind of love that says for you I'll give my life.

It is not the love of Soap Operas, romance novels, or cheap sex in a multitude of sad and lonely relationships. Nor is it the notion that all love is God-type of love so therefore all things are okay if I call it love. It is the vibrant love of the Father who even in rebuke has love in His heart and restoration as the end result. That even in the middle of sin and rebellion He longs to be with us because His love is so strong and so pure.

It is a dangerous love and only available upon the death of our self and the resurrection of Him in and through us. It is not made possible to us through an evangelism class or book on love. It is available through His life and His life only.

God has transformed my life through love and not a political system or a system of rules. It is His love that constantly pulls me to Him and allows me in some small way to reflect Him. It is this incredible love that teaches me right from wrong, gives me a moral compass, and helps my life in a small way reflect Him.

Go ahead and do it: call me a liberal. I hope the label fits in this area because...

I want to be liberal in love.

Sex or Attachment: Why Do We Fall in Love, Really?

Poets have tried to describe it with rhymes, romance novelist attempt to emulate it with written emotion and seduction, and songwriters have tried to create it with melody and lyrics. Now, scientists believe they have identified parts of the brain, which are linked to feelings of true love.

So, why do we fall in love?

We don't need scientists to tell us that love makes us feel good. But because we are an inquisitive species, we are always asking the question "Why?"

Experts believe that by understanding the neurochemical pathways that regulate social attachments may help to understand why certain individuals possess an inability to form relationships and permanent attachments to others.

Dr. Helen E. Fisher, author of "Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love" did ask this question. And she got her answer.

Dr. Fisher, a researcher anthropologist at Rutgers University, New Brunswick, New Jersey, has made it her life's work to try to understand romantic love and has been studying the evolution of human sexuality, marriage and divorce, gender differences in the brain, as well as the behavior, and the future of men, women, sex and family life since 1983.

Her recent studies have focused on issues of gender, sex, and romantic love.

Dr. Fisher and her team of specialists conducted a study by scanned the brains of people who were acutely in love.

What she found was that there are three very distinct stages of love: sex drive, romantic love, and attachment.

1) Sex Drive / Lust

Lust is driven by sex hormones--testosterone and oestrogen--that involves the craving for sex. According to Jim Pfaus, a psychologist at Concordia University, these hormones are what get us "out on the pull." Dr. Pfaus states that the aftermath of lustful sex is similar to the state induced by taking opiates. A heady mix of chemical changes occurs, including increases in the levels of serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin and endogenous opioids (the body's natural equivalent of heroin). "This may serve many functions, to relax the body, induce pleasure and satiety, and perhaps induce bonding to the very features that one has just experienced all this with", says Dr Pfaus.

2) Attraction / Romantic Love

After lust comes attraction. This is the love-struck phase; the time when we lose our appetite, can't sleep, and can't concentrate. This is what we know as falling in love.

Attraction, or the state of being in love, what is sometimes known as romantic or obsessive love, is a refinement of mere lust that allows people to home in on a particular mate. This state is characterized by feelings of exhilaration, and intrusive, obsessive thoughts about the object of one's affection.

When we fall in love, our palms sweat, we can stutter and become breathless, we can't think clearly and it feels like we have butterflies in our stomachs. This is all due to surging brain chemicals called monoamines. They are called dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin. Norepinephrine and serotonin excite us, while dopamine makes us feel happy. These love chemicals are controlled by a substance which is also found in chocolate and in strawberries, called PEA or phenylethylamine and it is PEA which controls the transition from lust to love.

Arousal comes naturally. But long-term success in mating requires a change from being naive about this state to knowing the precise factors that lead from arousal to the rewards of sex, love and attachment. For some, this may involve flowers, chocolate and sweet words.

The body builds up tolerance to these chemicals therefore requiring more of the "substance" to get that special feeling of infatuation. People who jump from relationship to relationship crave the intoxication of falling in love and may be "attraction junkies". In the case of romance readers - This may also explain the reason fans of romance novels my feel they have an addiction to the feeling they get after reading a romantic scene from a novel. The sub-conscious brain can't distinguish the difference between fantasy and reality. These feelings are still very real to the brain because it creates the same chemicals rather if they are created authentically or not.

In the case of enduring romances, the continued presence of a partner stimulates production of endorphins which are soothing substances and natural pain-killers.

Dr Helen Fisher, states, "We believe romantic love is a developed form of one of three primary brain networks that evolved to direct mammalian reproduction."

Dr. Fisher explains that "Romantic love is one of three basic brain circuits that evolved for reproduction: the sex drive motivates all of us to look for a range of partners. Romantic love, the elation and obsessive thinking that is produced when you first fall in love, focuses our mating energy on just one individual. "Following that, attachment sets in, the calm and security you can feel with a long term mate, enabling you to sustain your relationship to rear your children as a team.

She continues to say that "Romantic love is the most powerful, and the beginning of the cascade. And what we found in our brain scanning experiments is that romantic love is a drive, an instinct that arises from primitive parts of the brain associated with dopamine, a powerful stimulant. Romance is a chemical high, which is why your beloved begins to take "special meaning."

3) Long-term Attachment

The third stage of love is attachment - staying together. Attachment takes over from the attraction stage and is the bond which keeps couples together.

Wonderful though it is, romantic love is unstable--not a good basis for child-rearing. But the final stage of love, long-term attachment, allows parents to co-operate in raising children. This state, says Dr Fisher, is characterized by feelings of calm, security, social comfort and emotional union.

Because they are independent, these three systems can work simultaneously--with dangerous results. As Dr Fisher explains, "you can feel deep attachment for a long-term spouse, while you feel romantic love for someone else, while you feel the sex drive in situations unrelated to either partner." This independence means it is possible to love more than one person at a time, a situation that leads to jealousy, adultery, and divorce. Additionally, the possibilities of promiscuity and polygamy may occur, with the likelihood of extra children, and thus a bigger stake in the genetic future, that those behaviors bring. As Dr Fisher observes, "We were not built to be happy but to reproduce."

o The sex drive evolved to motivate individuals to seek sex with any appropriate partner.

o Attraction, the mammalian precursor of romantic love, evolved to enable individuals to pursue preferred mating partners, thereby conserving courtship time and energy.

o The brain circuitry for male-female attachment evolved to enable individuals to remain with a mate long enough to complete species-specific parenting duties.

The stages of love vary somewhat between the sexes. Lust, for example, is aroused more easily in men by visual stimuli than is the case for women. This is probably why visual pornography is more popular with men. And although both men and women express romantic love with the same intensity, and are attracted to partners who are dependable, kind, healthy, smart and educated, there are some notable differences in their choices.

Men are more attracted to youth and beauty, while women are more attracted to money, education and position. When an older, unattractive man is seen walking arm-in-arm with a young and beautiful woman, most people assume the man is rich or powerful.

Dr. Fisher believes that several forces play a role in whom we fall in love with. Timing is important; you tend to fall in love when you are ready. Proximity is crucial; we fall for people we interact with. Both men and women are excited by those who are mysterious--probably because mystery triggers the activity of dopamine in the brain. And both sexes tend to fall in love with those of a similar background and values, which anthropologists call "positive assortive mating" or "fitness matching."

We also fall in love with someone who fits within what's called your "love map. This is an unconscious list of traits you seek in your ideal partner that you build as you grow up.

But there is even more to falling in love: biology. We are unconsciously attracted to those who complement ourselves biologically, as well as socially, psychologically and intellectually. We fall in love with someone who has a different chemical profile for dopamine, serotonin, estrogen and testosterone that complements our own.

Essentially, each stage is a separate and distinct phenomenon, with its own emotional and motivational system, with accompanying essential brain chemicals. This system of stages has evolved to enable mating, pair-bonding and parenting to ensure the continuation of the human race.

Scientists have even concluded that the female orgasm may have evolved to help women distinguish Mr. Right from Mr. Wrong.

Love lights up the caudate nucleus because it is home to a dense spread of receptors for a neurotransmitter called dopamine, which Dr. Fisher came to believe as part of our own endogenous love potion. In the right proportions, dopamine creates intense energy, exhilaration, focused attention, and motivation to win rewards.

Sex drive, attraction, romantic love, timing, proximity, biology, brain chemicals... So why do we fall in love? More importantly, does it really matter? As a true supporter of romantic love and as a romance novelist--I believe love is it's own reward and need not be analyzed anywhere but in our own hearts!

Oh... and here's the fun part: According to research, the more couples have sex together... the more likely they are to bond. How's that for motivation!

Bonnie Williams - Copyright (C) 2006

Sources: Forbes.com - 06/28/04; Mattew Herper - The Science of Love, NewScientist.com - 05/05/04; Anil Ananthaswamy - Hormones Converge for Couples in Love, CNN.com - 11/08/00; Lew Orleans, LA - Love Makes You Light Up - Even Your Brain, National Geographic - 02/2006; Love, BBC News Online - 07/05/00; How the Brain Registers Love, TheEconomist.com - 02/12/04; The Science of Love, Chemistry.com - (2006); Helen Fisher - Science of Attraction, Fisher, Helen (2004). Why We Love - the Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love, Henry Holt and Company.

Bonnie Louise Williams is the author of three erotic romance novels, an online romantic comedy series, and several erotic short stories. To join her free newsletter visit her website at www.LoveandRomanceEtc.com or to order Bonnie?s erotic romance novels, visit www.BonnieLouiseWilliams.com

A Secret to Attracting the Love That You Really Want

We all search for that special someone in our lives. You know, that person that it would be fun to be with everyday and romantic with at night. Lots and lots of people eventually give up hope in finding this kind of person. And many decide to just fall for whomever may come next in their life.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO!

You don't have to do this. There is no reason to settle for less than what you really want. All you have to do is learn one little secret to really attracting that person that you are looking for. When you know what this secret is and how to use it for attracting that ideal mate, you won't want to settle for anything less, believe me!

The secret is to know what you really want, specifically and to combine that with the faith that you will absolutely attract that person that would be your "soul mate." If you don't believe it, it's not going to happen. And you will not take the actions that are necessary for getting what it is that you really want.

There is a reason why some people wind up in the relationship of their dreams and other people just continue to dream. The people who wind up in these kinds of relationships know that they deserve nothing but the best and they are committed to having that in their lives.

You should never have to settle when you settle down. You don't have to, so why would you?

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Bryan Appleton is an author of self-help motivational literature as well as an entrepreneuer and investor. He is a single father and has made it one of his life's goals to try and help other people live the lives they are dreaming of.