Humility is Love

All great things are built on the foundation of love. Yet, sometimes we forget to acknowledge it. My darling, it is you, and without you, I would not have the foundation to take these risks, the motive to want to strive nor the courage to get up when I fall. My beloved, I forget, I forget what I have and sometimes I think I am an island, a satellite, I forget how much you do. Please know, and know that I worship, that what I achieve, is what we achieve, it is all grown from our love, from you. You hold me, know me, value me and honour me with your love. You care, and trust, and wait for me. Please, for the love of all that exists, may I remain truly humble to the immense power you bring to my life, thankful for the small things, and, for the forgotten things. May I always say thank you from the depths of my heart. May I always stay humble to the value of your love in creating mine.

In our modern world the ego can easily overtake love. The speed of life is complex, exciting and wonderful, but if this is at the cost of love, then the ego has won and love has lost.

Stillness is the key. Learning to stop, really stop and be still with our beloved, to turn up, this is the key to sustaining sacred relationships amongst this busy-ness. Stillness is the lifeblood of our relationship, and with

stillness there is honesty, love and surrender.

The stillness in which love can exist requires that you know how to cease

thinking and worrying and striving, to let nature caress your heart and soul. Can you stop running? Can you forget about the mortgage,

the rent, the fat on your belly, oil in your hair, the spot on your face,

the next deal, the kids at school, the yoga backbend, what

people think of you, and just be? Because this is how to find love. Underneath all the struggle there is love. Your lover, that beautiful soul who is waiting for you to come back to stillness. It is there, always, behind the drama, the ambition, the strain. Don't wait for a personal tsunami to make you aware of the power of stillness. Find it,

just 10 minutes each morning, and eventually you'll learn how to find it anytime, anywhere.

What we need to do most is stop. Stop the rush, the wanting, the

needing. Kill the expectations, just for one minute in silence, the TV off, the silence on, anywhere, anytime. Stop, then let it happen by itself, fall into love.

The ego hates the idea of stopping, so it even makes excuses like,

"Ooh I am too busy" or "Ooh, you did this to me". There are just

thousands, millions of ego tricks, because to be emotionally and

mentally naked, to sit in silence, means all your self doubt and mind stuff will be there to see. The thought that our self-deception, our masks of no earthly use, are going to be uncovered, witnessed by somebody - ourselves in particular - is terrifying.

You can place a flower in front of you, a thing of beauty, or chant

a poem, but your eyes cannot move, your mind cannot receive

a compliment, there can be no better or worse, there can simply be an immersion. To "fall" in love through the art of stillness is more about what you don't do than what you do. You don't try, you don't expect, you don't want, you don't need, you don't hope, you just don't.

In that moment of not doing, when you actually stop everything, then love is there. It is a ritual at first, but eventually a skill to create the

sort of focus where you and the object of your love, no matter what you are doing, become one.

Through the practice and mastery of inner stillness, we can choose

to be available for love at any time. We achieve this by simply diving past the ego, through the layers of emotion and fears, straight to the core that sits within. It is a hard path, because it is direct.

This spontaneous act of falling in love is an essential asset for any sacred relationship. The keys to this direct path to love are in learning to focus on the object of the moment, and be totally present and not distracted when with your lover. It may be confrontational at first, but eventually, this experience of falling in love will become a permanent experience, always behind the reality of everyday life.

When you commit to be open, you can truly fall back in love any time you choose. We go straight past the ego, past the intellect, and we

fall back in love because there is no expectation, no resistance, no question, nothing to defend or protect, no "I" or "me"; there is just love. There is no reason, so there is no resistance.

Becoming available to fall in love over and over with your beloved requires that you create the space, the openness for love to exist. If you can master this art, then you can choose to make it last one second, or a lifetime. No matter what the circumstances, whether you are single or in your relationship, you can fall in love again and again. It is the most beautiful art, the most profound education. Becoming available does not depend on circumstances, but draws us straight to the moment of love. Then there is no memory needed, there is no hoping for a

special circumstance, or event. Then, whether you are laying in each other's arms, or separated forever, love can be celebrated in all its

beauty. You can become available to fall in love every moment you choose. New love, old love, young love, sweet love, sacred love. It is

simple really. You just need to know how to get out of your own way, switch off the protection, change modes, and you are there.

Love is independent of your thinking and emotions. If you can find

love through the art of stillness, you will have found the secret to

unconditional love, and the solution to all of life's challenge. Then, no matter where you are, no matter what is happening you can know that love is in your heart. A love that lasts forever; stillness where you,

your beloved and all that surrounds you become one, in love. Love is natural - let nature be your guide. When was the last time you and your lover lay naked on the grass on a starlit night, looked up at the

heavens in silence, and opened your hearts to love without action?

In nature, that first moment you met is brought back into your

heart, and you remember how it was, before relationship interfered. You remember how it was to fall without mind, without expectation, into the arms of true love, in that sacred moment you met.

Under the canopy of the stars dreams are free, life is infinitely long, and there cannot be a worry in any human heart. Lying there on the soft grass, looking out from our tiny home, the perfection is obvious even to a troubled soul.

Underneath that umbrella, our world, our life, our religions sit.

We build things, collect things, fall in love and fall out of love, we live and we die, under that canopy. And we look up and wonder at it all. Our ego says, "I am important" yet, under this vista, looking out from our tiny earth, there is an obvious contradiction. Although I think,

"I am free", I am not free to disobey the laws that make all this

magnificence function. The ants in their ant nest have laws. They live a short time, and in that time, they must survive. Their laws don't change the stars, or the universe, but their laws make being an ant

possible. We are ants, but we think our laws are divine laws. Every

religion thinks their watch tells heavenly time. But like the ants,

our laws just make being a human possible. There are bigger

things at stake than our conflicting arguments of which God is the right God, and which law is the right law. Under the canopy of the stars one can reach out way beyond this little perspective of life, and embrace all the emotions of life as mere fragments of the whole story. The

diversity of humanity becomes a unity if you can reach

beyond the ego. This is the only way.

To understand the whole of

creation, not just a self-determined fragment of it, one can look to understand the constants that exist both here on earth and out there in the stars. These are the universal laws. They cannot be preaching a morality, such is the domain of the religious leaders, politicians and philosophers, making our nest habitable. No, those laws exist impartially. The terrorist, the rapist, the angel and the yogi are all humble to those laws, whether morally right or wrong, and we are all under this one canopy and equally worthy of love. Open your heart to witness those laws in a way that you, an ant in this anthill, might begin to understand the whole picture, rather than become obsessed with

an adhesion to a fragment of it. The premise is that all the fragments,

the religions, the philosophies, and processes of life are valid in their context. But none tell the whole story, therefore, none alone can stand real scrutiny. This is why we defend them with vengeance.

Look up and see the universe, see your lives, your religions, and your

world in a bigger context, a great and magnificent order. An order that

pervades every molecule of existence, every moment of activity, every action known as history, and every vision known as the future. There can be no escape from that magnificent viewpoint. From star stuff we come, to star stuff we go.

Lying there far away from the claustrophobia of air-conditioned offices,

digitised button pushing, your car, television, microwave and thoughts.

Let your individuality fall away, become more and more part of

something magnificent, less and less questioning of what is possible or best. Be alive; this is the world of nature.

Let your mind and heart wander, stay warm, lie next to that beautiful soul, your lover, beloved, the one who has blessed you with

their humanity, sent to be with you, |in this moment right now, with

all their totally perfect inadequacies and know that you are the luckiest person on earth.