Romance your beloved. Live this day as if it will be your last together. Remember tomorrow never comes. Forget yesterday's challenges. Be innocent, get off the high horse. Ignore all your worries about tomorrow. This is it. Your own Jihad. Give it all you have. Make it the best day of your year. Forget Valentine's Day, every day is Valentine's day. The saddest words you can ever hear are, "I wish I had my time over again ... I'd do it different", regret. The stupidest people have "do it tomorrow" on their calendar. Act like your beloved is the most precious diamond, and if you don't act now, they'll melt. Run with it! Today! Now. Don't be a mourner get out of the corner.
Make your life a honeymoon. You already know the magnificence of that feeling and it still lives within you. Your love, your spirit, can come to life anytime you choose it, so choose it often. Never let a bad experience dampen your spirit. Those situations are as precious as the good ones. Smile at the challenges. Down is not bad. You can always look around for a beautiful flower, the love of a friend, the most precious of rainbows. Don't wait for love to come to you, go out and grab it with all your heart. Choose love. Choose a honeymood lifestyle. Make everyday, a day a falling in love day. Fall in love with friends, relatives, trees, birds, an apple. Let love for life sparkle in your eyes, shiver in your spine. Live with Spirit everyday, - naturally.
I am thinking of you, wondering
about you
feeling love for you
fantasising about you
But never doubting
that beautiful feelings
Toward a beautiful soul
can be wrong.
To love someone
as I love you now
and hold deep trust for that love.
Is the greatest and most precious truth
A man could have.
If I needed something
that might be wrong.
If I wanted something
that might be corrupted
But to love?
That is why I even breathe
and today
I breathe you into my heart
Again, and again, and again
Without reason
I simply breathe love for you.
Eternally.
It is in the eyes of loved ones where we find God, rather than the buildings we create to house it. It is in the doing of things that the wealth exists. A person who can say, "I love doing this" is far more rewarded on the cosmic level than the person who would profess that, "I've got to do this". Achievements last for moments, but love is a journey. There is no solace for the wealthy person who, surrounded with material items and victories, cannot feel love.
ROMANTIC LIFESTYLES
Your honesty touches my heart.
It is one of the qualities I value in my relationship with you,
honesty without judgment
and this is living in truth with ourselves and one another.
I love the part of you that is in the world
and wishes to meet me in every way.
This makes my blood race and my flesh tingle.
I know who you are,
in truth you are everything.
Your spirit has opened my heart
Thank you
Romance is appreciation. What you appreciate grows. Sustainable romance is an honoring, an attitude of admiration. Romance is gratitude. The most romantic person is one who appreciates their partner most. To be romantic you don't have to buy gifts all the time, most of it comes from your attitude. Romance means you are open, on another plane altogether, and therefore beyond the need for provocation.
Below is a letter written by Anais Nin, someone who truly understood the erotic art of romance. This letter was written to a client who paid her and her partner to write erotic stories for him after receiving a note from him asking her to "cut the poetry and concentrate on the sex" in their stories. In the letter, Nin masterfully defends the essential beauty of romance in the art of love, and emotional desire, the essence of eroticism. The sponsor operated in the first level - sex is sex, while Nin is operating in the third level.
I quote
Dear Collector:
We hate you. Sex loses all its power and magic when it becomes
explicit, mechanical overdone, when it becomes a mechanistic
obsession.
It becomes a bore. You have taught us more than anyone I know
how wrong it is not to mix it with emotion, hunger, desire, lust
whims caprices, personal ties, deeper relationships that change its
color, flavor, rhythms, intensities.
You do no know what you are missing by your microscopic
examination of sexual activity to the exclusion of aspects which are
the fuel that ignites it. Intellectual imaginative, romantic,
emotional. This is what gives sex its surprising texture, its
subtle transformation, its aphrodisiac elements. You are shrinking
your world of sensations. You are withering it, starving it, draining
it's blood.
If you nourished your sexual life with all the excitements and
adventures which love injects into sensuality, you would be the most
potent man in the world. The source of sexual power is curiosity,
passion. You are watching its little flame die of asphyxiation. Sex
does not thrive on monotony. Without feeling, intervention, mood,
there are no surprises in bed. Sex must be mixed with tears,
laughter, words promises, scenes, jealousy, envy, all of the spices
of fear, foreign travel new faces, novels, stories, dreams,
fantasies, music, dancing, opium, wine.
How much do you lose by this periscope at the tip of your sex,
when you could enjoy a harem of discrete and never repeated wonders?
No two hairs alike, but you will not let us waste words on
description of hair; no two odors, but if we expand on this you cry:
Cut the poetry! No two skins with the same texture, and never the
same light, temperature, shadows, never the same gestures, for a
lover, when he is aroused by true love, can the gamut of centuries of
love lore, What a range, what changes of age, what variations of
maturity and innocence. Perversity and art.
We have sat around for hours and wondered how you look. If you
have closed your senses around silk, light, color, odor, character,
temperament, you must by now be completely shriveled up. There are so
many minor senses, all running like tributaries, into the mainstream
of sex, nourishing it. Only the united beat of sex and heart together
can create ecstasy.
Many people wait for a special occasion to be romantic because it involves serious time and money. This really misses the point because romance is the daily ritual, in everything that takes place, to reflect your love, an attitude of gratitude. If the ego is engaged in a relationship, there will be bright eyes and smile, but if there is no romance it's like having an enemy against you. Romance is an attitude, a prioritisation, living walking, talking proof that when you say, "I love you" there is emotion behind it.
When you appreciate your partner, they feel it. In fact, the word appreciation means to make bigger or expand, and romance is exactly that, making someone feel special, better, bigger than they felt before you walked into the room.
Don't try to change what people are. Rather develop what they have. According to Kahli Gibran "Our worst fault is our preoccupation with the fault of others". If you want to get the best out of someone, you must look for the best that is in them. People can only use their strengths to excel, not their limitations.
Try to make romance a way of life. Try and remember what you did to seduce your lover's ego before they committed to you, and make that the benchmark for how you treat them now. Making life a seduction is fun, a conscious and beautiful discipline to maintain with your lover. The value of romance, appreciating the small things, showing gratitude cannot be under stated. This is where the ego engages in a healthy way and relaxes enough to allow you to rise to higher levels of communication with your partner.
Have you ever noticed that after you've shown a little love to someone, a heat wave of contentment pervades your entire being? Have you realised that the most profound moments of contentment are those that come in the moments when you give appreciation, unconditionally?
My love for you
needs nothing
I am in my spirit
I am in no hurry
I am thankful for what I have
I am thankful to have touched your heart
I am thankful for your eyes
I am thankful for your past
and mine
You have fulfilled a dream
just by being
Thank you
When you appreciate people, when you simply smile at a stranger in the street, do you recognise that breeze of peace that flows over you? When you help someone up who has stumbled, do you feel that contentment pervading your heart? When you present a flower to someone who is sick, or who is in need, do you feel a sense of warmth well up inside of you? Giving appreciation, not because it was your duty or obligation, or because that man is your father (or a complete stranger), is a gift, and this feeling of warmth is a great reward. Giving without condition or reason, this is true love, an attitude of your nature, the individuality of you, and it is not limited to events, it is a way of life.
Today, celebrate your love for your lover. Treat them more importantly than yourself. Have the courage to surprise them, gift them, tantalise them, make love for them so they feel like they went to heaven, honor them, surrender to them, value them and treasure them. Do it without fear of failure, or fear of rejection, or fear of being hurt. Do it today like there is no tomorrow, because in love, there is no tomorrow.
Loving Gifts
Small gifts, all they need to do is put a smile in your lover's heart. When we are mindful of the harmony of our thinking, and therefore our gifts, we can then watch our love become a thousand times greater in effect and value. A gift given with anger and resentment will breed that downward force wherever it travels. A gift given with the deepest love is unconditional, so what our partner does with it, is not important, it is the energy we sent or gave that is the power of it.
All of life is a miracle. The order of nature, the revolution of a hundred million words around a million of suns, the activity of light, the life of animals, all are grand and perpetual miracles.
Voltaire
Love Letters
To love all of who you are
Is to love all of me
Never before have I been in this place
I am bathing in the fullness of love
I touch the purest part of me
This energy swims thru me, all around me, connects me to you
so that I may see all of you with Love
And I do
I love you
Leave notes, write emails, SMS like there is no tomorrow. When we write a love letter or email the truth is conveyed between the lines. Words written with loving thoughts behind them will have a far greater effect than a thousand pages of well-written, grammatically correct, literature. Have you ever "heard" a letter speaking? It is not simply what is written on the paper. You can decipher the mood the sender was in, their happiness or resentment, their joy and their sorrow. A letter carries the vibration of thought and feeling, as do all forms of communication.
Dreams of Love
I feel you deep inside my body,
my heart, my spirit.
I am overwhelmed with thoughts of you.
I need to sit silently tonight and allow all of this to enter the stillest within me.
I will rest in this place.
When I lay myself down to sleep, to dream I will dream of ...............you.
Your last thoughts before you sleep manifest in your reality. Whatever occupies the subconscious mind as you enter sleep will be manifest in the earth plane in the day. An intense focus of thought in the last waking moments becomes a prayer. Such thinking is always fruitful. All genuine prayer must be born in the subconscious, in the heart with feeling and depth. Just as you are falling asleep, you list all you have to be thankful for. This is the simple, natural key to romance. Remember not to go to sleep in the midst of an argument, resolve it always before sleep. The cost of an argument that extends into the night can multiply the problems ten fold.
The last words before you fall asleep each night are best to be "thank you".
Our work, sport, friendships and health affect our love.
Being tired, stressed and worried;
Foolishness cannot be compensated
The commitment to a loving relationship.
Love is a lifestyle.
Protecting our relationship is a lifestyle choice,
Impacted by others,
Impacted by work
Impacted by choices
Imbalance
taking risks with truth.
These are the choices.
Your choices.
The result is your relationship
Chris Walker is a world leading change agent, an environmentalist and author of more than 20 books. Born and bred in Australia, he consults to people and organisations throughout the world on improved relationships, health and lifestyle through the application of the Universal laws of Nature. The result he offers is that we stay balanced, share loving relationships, work with passion, enjoy success, and live our personal truth. To learn more about Chris?s work and journeys to Nepal, visit http://www.chriswalker.com.au
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