Love is not just the word we say to each other to declare how we feel for one another. It has hidden traits that must be obeyed for it to dwell amongst us. We may say that if we love one another then these traits should not exist and our love for each other should surpass them. Unfortunately it is because of love itself that these traits are so important. The thing to remember here is that we do not exist in love, love exists in us and for that reason the human element has a big role to play in our love for each other.
The Test
We test everything in life for sincerity, nothing more so than love. This is not carried out by our control. This is the human in us making sure that what it chooses to believe in really exists. Whether we have known each other for years or believe that we love each other no matter the circumstances, we often discover that time and again we need the reassurance from those we love that they still feel the same way about us. We leave hidden test for our loved ones to do. Without our knowledge we push them a little and allow the child in us to take over. Our desire is to let them do what is necessary for us to feel wanted and important. Whether it is in the smallest things and most righteous reasons for our actions it is still a test of love to ensure that whom we have chosen to love, loves us as much as we would like them to in return.
Unspoken words
Pride is another factor in love that makes us hide the truth at certain times. This is not to say that we do not love one another but it is just a case of balance. This is even more apparent between people who have known one another for many years. No one ever wants to believe that they are wholly dependent on another human being. This makes them feel less of a person for all the wrong reasons. Perhaps in the long run we declare the truth but most times if we can use other means to express our self without appearing to belittle ourselves we will. Once more we can argue here that love should surpass this barrier. It eventually does but before then we avoid using any words that could belittle us and choose words that appear to be rational and well thought of. Love should come with humility as well as honesty. It is important that we recognize this weakness in ourselves and do what is necessary to rectify it.
Arguments
Love quarrels are a necessity. We might argue that why should two people who love one another quarrel. The fact is this is necessary for both of them to strengthen the bond between each other. This is not an argument to demoralize each other or to end a relationship. This is an argument to gain perspective in love. With perspective a couple will know how to resolve their issues together and accept that an argument cannot break their love for each other. Real love is one that surpasses the differences between the two individuals involved. If both individuals can get through an argument and still feel the same way about each other then their love for one another is real.
Time
Time is often ignored in love because we blindly believe that when we love each other then all the pieces should fall into place as expected. We blindly believe that our love for one another would be enough to overcome anything. In principle it should because that is the nature of what love is. The truth is love also needs time to grow and develop into its full strength. Declaring love does not mean that it has fully evolved. It just means that our person as individuals has come to terms with it. The real meaning of love is the length of time that we are able to abide by this love between each other. If after several years we can still declare this love then it has evolved and is working towards its full potential. Thus things can only get better for us. Time is a hidden factor of love because we rarely take it into consideration as a key element that could strengthen our love for each other.
Leslie Musoko
Author Of Spirituality/Christianity
Divinity Dawns & Eli
http://lesliemusoko.ning.com
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